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Forgiveness – letting ourselves move on to peace & love.
One of my good friends who is a Mahayana Buddhist therapist and, I believe, a very evolved being, always says forgiveness is everything and I tend to agree with him. The people that I see struggling with life and having a traumatic time all seem to have issues in their life that have not been forgiven and moved on from. Now don’t forget, this could be forgiveness of themselves, as well as others.
If you type in Forgiveness is any search engine you will find an abundance of recommendations and books available to work through. Now I have done my research and it seem that this should be a daily mode of practice if you are the type that holds grudges again … with yourself and/or anyone else. You see, to me it’s all about the Law of attraction or Karma or whatever you want to call it? Even if we think we are directing the aggression to others, the fact is, that we are the ones receiving it. To me, and I’m sure we all visualise it differently, it’s like we have a large cup round us that all our energies are held in. When we give out certain energies whether they are positive or negative … that’s the energy reserve we have to use again. So … by the law of attraction … it just comes back to us.
These days I am fortunate in that I have learnt to see other people’s reactions to things, as being not necessarily anything I have done or even to do with me. I see it much more to do with themselves and how they are feeling at that particular time in their lives. Usually, this brings out a new feeling in me of empathy rather than anger, or any unforgiving tendencies. I can often … even if it takes a few minutes for the empathy to kick in, turn the negative feeling, into one of love and feelings of unity and compassion. After all we are the same group consciousness living separate lives but always in unity. Each one of us is choosing a different experience to put into our melting pot of being one.
So I ask that we all find it in our hearts to turn against being unforgiving. That we all weed out our inner gardens and find those areas that have been neglected for a while. Find the piece that has not been forgiven and that we have left to putrefy and clear it out.
Here’s a few tips which might help or if not do some surfing for yourself and come up with just the right solution for you.
One such site I found says: "In practicing forgiveness every day, the heart will be given pre-eminence in your life." It liberates the soul from bondage, and beyond that forgiveness is an action which your mind can never understand. Your mind's sole intent is to balance the books. In issues of morality your mind only wants to get even. Therefore, practice forgiveness every day if only in trivial matters. This is an excellent way of tempering the mind and empowering the heart.
They say: Can you find at least one thing every hour to forgive?
Their examples for today could be:
* I forgive myself for not sticking to my intentions of better feeding my body.
* I forgive the man at the grocery store yesterday for not treating me with respect.
* I forgive my mother for not speaking her gratitude to me for the things that I do for her.
* I forgive my friend for not seeing life as I do and not taking my path seriously.
Some of the ways they have approached these grievances are:
#1 Know that "I do not perceive what is in my own best interest."...meaning that each time something happens that I don't expect, or it doesn't happen "like it should," I have another opportunity to let go and trust that what is happening is for my best interest. I have the opportunity to anticipate more freedom and a movement towards more joy.
#2 Remember when I experience something as not "the way it should be," I create resistance in my body. This resistance lowers my vibration, which in turn, attracts to me a lowered vibrational reality (events that are not very pleasant.)
#3 Observe my STORIES.
If I tell the story (my mind is the audience) that I am not respected, (something called "inner considering") than I am imagining that it is all about ME. Perhaps this man in my "story" who did not give me respect would have all of his facts and reasons for responding as he did. I have a choice here to suffer with my stories or to forgive my imaginings. These stories let me see how I have given my self respect to an external source. In the higher sense, it is all about me. It is my responsibility to see things with forgiveness and LIGHT!
"Forgive, forgive and forgive again. What good will it do to add more conflict? Moreover, if you deny love, then where have you placed yourself? Man has created the societal nightmares you call Hell, through denials of love and forgiveness. There is a great fear and misconception about forgiveness.”
Exercise:
Select a bitter sorrow, a serious grievance against someone, or a punishing charge against yourself, and review it in complete detail.
Hold in your mind the image of whatever is to be forgiven - yourself, another person, a past event and say, "I release you from the grip of my sadness, disapproval, or condemnation." Concentrate quietly on this intention.
Imagine for a while what your life would be like without the sorrow or grievance that has been haunting you.
Make amends with someone who has hurt you, tell a friend about your self-forgiveness, or otherwise link your inner work to your relationships.
Ask for your God's help to overcome fear or resistance at any step. If you do not believe in God, ask for help from all nature, human, and the mysteries of your own mind. These are the channels through which aid is sent - and aid is always sent.
Have patience. Forgiveness induces healing which follows its own order and timing. Whether you think you have accomplished anything thus far is less important than the fact that you have attempted a radical act calling for change beyond your imagining. Go about your daily business, but stay alert to unexpected shifts in your thinking, feelings, and relationships.
I wish you many blessings and complete forgiveness in all things! Terri x
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